Many pick-up gurus, as well as those who teach about masculinity, have touted a man’s ability to lead as key to attracting women. You’ve probably heard me talk about leadership before, but I’ve never really gotten into what’s necessary to be the kind of leader that is attractive to the feminine.

Polarity is a necessary ingredient in sexual attraction, and, although polarity can get quite complex, I have come to realize that, in the context of human relationships (romantic and otherwise) it all boils down to leading and following. In a well-balanced  romantic relationship, you will have a yang (masculine) partner and a yin (feminine) partner, the yang being the leader. For the sake of simplicity, I will say “man” and “woman,” however, note that this is not always the case, nor *should* it be. Any two beings can take on the role of being yang and yin with each other.