Mondays are Man Appreciation Day here at The Art of Flirting! Every Monday, I’m going to sharing something that I appreciate about men. It might come in the form of a story from a specific man in my own life. Or, it might simply be something that I love about men. Or both 🙂
My boyfriend had the day off from work today. Which means I took most of the day off to play with him (which is why this week’s Man Appreciation article is being posted so late!).
Earlier this year, I posted an article about managing the highs and lows of dating. When I wrote that article, I was at a “low.” I had not one but two significant relationships come to an end, and I was dealing with the emotional fallout from that.
Now, I have a new boyfriend and am very much enjoying a dating high! And I mean that literally; NRE (New Relationship Energy) is practically identical to cocaine in terms of how it affects your brain chemicals.
When you’re in a dating high, it’s important to enjoy it — because it won’t last. This doesn’t mean the relationship won’t last; I actually see a lot of long term potential with this guy (and he has expressed the same to me). But the high of a new relationship cannot be sustained forever, which is exactly why it’s so important to savor every moment of it when you are having that experience.
This is why I decided to spend the whole day with my boyfriend (and spend most of that time without any clothes on… 😉 ) even though it means I’ll be up late tonight catching up on all the work I didn’t get done during the daytime hours.
I very much appreciate that my new man is eager to soak up all these fun times with me, too. I’ve dated overly serious men in the past, and, while I was impressed by their ambition and ability to stay on top of things, they were kind of a drag to spend time with.
By contrast, this new relationship is some of the most fun I’ve had in a long time! My boyfriend takes pleasure in just about everything he does (or at least, everything we do together). No wonder I spent the day with him saying, “Wait, I don’t want to leave just yet…”
Of course you have responsibilities in life and no one can spend every day the way I spent today. But it’s important to have fun too. Play is an essential ingredient in love and in life.
In case you are wondering where my husband is in all this, I want to take this time to appreciate him as well. He deserves recognition for being a man who is secure enough in himself that he doesn’t get possessive over me and my pleasure, but rather, he is happy to see his wife happy. Best husband ever! 🙂
There are many different ways to play; the key ingredients are that you are having fun, and you are not trying to accomplish anything specific, but rather, you are letting things unfold as you enjoy the present moment. Also, it helps to be engaging your body as well as your mind.
What do you like to do for fun? Are you prioritizing fun in your life? Take this time to appreciate all of the ways that you play in your life.
Happy Man Appreciation Monday!
P.S. Check out this great Tedx talk by Charlie Hoehn on the importance of play: